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Are you commanding or being commanded by the consequence of change?

“Those who would be constant in happiness or wisdom must change often,” Confucius said.

The reason I decided to dedicate my life to talk about change was because whether you like it or not change is the way of the world. Change causes all matter to be built up and torn down. Waters to rise and fall again. Change can be a source of hope, for what is not good today may be made good tomorrow. Change can also be a source of anxiety, for what we love today may be gone tomorrow. In this example, memory and change stand in opposition. It’s only our memories that will ensure that change has no place. However outside our memories change will always rule supreme.

What to change and what to preserve, what to let go of and what to hold on to—these are matters of great judgment. To hold on too long may only be obstinacy; letting go too soon may be inconstancy. To keep for the sake of keeping may only be stubbornness and fear; to move on before its time may only be superficiality and fear. The former is the fear of losing, the latter the fear of being hurt.

Nature imposes its changes upon us, but our good sense chooses how much to keep and how much to shed. The inevitability of change places the burden of choice upon us.
As human beings that is what makes us unique, we have the choice to either command change or be a consequence of it.

I’d love to hear your thoughts on change, are you commanding or being commanded by the consequence of change.


Change is possible; the need for change is increasing; change capability is necessary for the organizations that will succeed in the future. So say the respondents to my survey about change management success.

In fact, internal and external consultants, and organization development, training, facilitation and human resources professionals responded in a fairly consistent voice. (The one underrepresented group was line managers–I’ll find ways to tap their ideas in the future.) Change is not going away; change is manageable; organizations can do change well. I looked for patterns and trends in the responses, and provide them here for you.

Successful change management requires:


  • full and active executive support,


  • employee involvement,


  • organizational planning and analysis and


  • widespread perceived need for the change.

These are the big five when successful change is achieved.

Implementing your change in an organizational environment that is already employee-oriented, with a high level of trust, is a huge plus. Understanding and responding to the range of human emotions during times of intense change, is also cited as critical.

All of this may sound straightforward, but your suggestions about how to do each of these successfully are priceless.

This article focuses on the key change management actions recommended by the majority of the change management study participants. A second article provides tips for addressing resistance to change. Another provides “voices from the field” and enables study participants to speak to you with their own words.

Changes Experienced

Change management study participants made their recommendations from their involvement in a broad range of changes. These are too numerous to mention and include downsizing; mergers; department and company reorganizations; implementing every conceivable initiative from the 1980s and 1990s including teams, self-directed work teams, quality, TQM, employee involvement, reengineering, management by objectives and matrix management; new compensation programs; changing work systems because of the Internet; implementing a strategic planning process; implementing new technology and software packages including MRPII and SAP; restructuring jobs; doubling production productivity; relocating facilities; adopting new appraisal processes; and changing work requirements, including doing more with fewer resources.


Change Management Recommendations

Now that you have some context for the changes experienced by the study respondents, these are the factors they experienced that increased their organization’s success with change management. Each participant did not cite all of these; I am highlighting those change management factors most frequently mentioned.

More rigorous studies of change management success and failure are required to assess the impact of each of these actions, but, I believe, the results of my change management survey provide you with great guidance as you embark upon your desired change.

Additionally, each of these factors does not occur separately from the others. They do not occur in a predictable sequence. In other words, portions of “Executive Support and Leadership” are usually happening while “Organization Planning and Analysis” is underway. You will also find overlap across all areas.

Many thanks Susan M.Heathfield for this article






Many people will say I can’t change and that’s it!!!

But often in life change can be achieved in small steps, here are 3 steps to help you.

1. Slow down

To change your life, you need time to think and reflect. If you are always busy, you won’t have the time to think about your life let alone taking action to change it. You won’t have the room to apply the tips below. So slow down and make the room for change.

Slow down and enjoy life. It’s not only the scenery you miss by going too fast – you also miss the sense of where you are going and why. Eddie Cantor

2. Be willing to change

Willingness is essential. It’s your life; nobody can change it but you. If you aren’t willing to change, then nothing in this world can make you do so.

To build the willingness to change, first you should realize that your life can be better than it is now. No matter how good your life is, it can always be improved. On the other hand, don’t feel hopeless if your life doesn’t seem good right now. You can always change your life for the better.

3. Accept responsibility

Accepting responsibility for your life is a must. Don’t blame other people for the bad things that happen in your life. Don’t blame your family, friends, boss, or the economy. Whether your life goes up or down depends on you and you alone. Once you take the responsibility, real change is within your reach.

We immediately become more effective when we decide to change ourselves rather than asking things to change for us. Stephen Covey

4. Find your deepest values

Deep down in your heart, there are some principles that you know is true. Take the time to find them. What do you think is the most valuable thing in life? What principles do you think you must follow to live a fulfilling life? These are the values you need to align yourself with. Find them and remind yourself constantly about them.

5. Find your cause

Change is not easy because there is inertia you need to overcome. Just like a space shuttle needs a powerful rocket to overcome the Earth’s gravity, you also need a powerful source of energy to overcome the inertia to change. Your cause is the source of energy you need. Your cause can give you the strength to overcome the inertia. To find your cause……

‘The Change Maker’


I once read, when you change the way you look at something, the thing your looking at will change. Many people believe our personality defines who we are and is difficult to change.

But before you can define who you are, you have to understand your personality. Ask yourself a question, such as “What do I like to do?” or “who am I?” When you can answer that question, then you can use the information to discover what your personality is.

Types of Personality Traits
There are many different personality types, and it is sometimes difficult to classify a person into a single type as there are many different personality traits you can possess.

Personality traits are simply:
•Behaviors you possess
Positive Personality Traits
Some personality traits are positive:

•Being honest no matter what the consequences are is one personality trait people should aspire to.
•Having responsibility for all of your actions and being a little bit of a perfectionism are also personality traits.
•Adaptability and compatibility are great and can help you get along with others.
•Having the drive to keep going, and having compassion and understanding are positive personality traits.
•Patience is a virtue and also another trait.
•Getting up the courage to do what’s right in those tough situations and loyalty to your friends and loved ones are laso personality traits.
Here’s a few more to consider:


Negative Personality Traits
Other personality traits are negative. For example:


A whole host of other bad characteristics can also be considered personality traits if you practice these things habitually.

Determining Personality Types
Your personality type can be determined by many factors. You can approach it the scientific way, by testing yourself and having a psychologist analysis you. A personality test is rather simple. By answering a few questions about your likes and dislikes and where you would like to go in life, a professional can give you a report detailing the type of personality you have.

In psychology, there are five factors that determine different personality types. The big five factors are:

1.Openness is appreciation for a variety of experience.
2.Conscientiousness is planning ahead rather than being spontaneous.
3.Extraversion involves going out with friends and being energetic.
4.Agreeableness is, as it says, being agreeable.
5.Neuroticism refers to worrying or being vulnerable.
Your personality test assesses how much of each of these five factors you possess.

Another way of determining your personality type is to just take a long and deep look at yourself. Asking questions is a great way of discovering who you are and what you are. Ask things like: “If a child is hurt and alone, what would you do?” The main thing you want to know is if you are a good person.

How Do I Create My Personality?
Your personality is entirely up to you. It is in the actions you take and the decisions you make. Either you are a patient person, or not; a responsible person or not. The only way to change your personality is to take active steps to become the person you want to be.

Taking up a hobby is a great way to become well rounded and improve your personality. Sports can make you stronger, arts and crafts can make you patient, volunteering can make you caring. Even just reading a book can push you to be better.

How Can My Personality Affect Others?

Being positive and upbeat can influence everyone around you, and so can negativity. For example, a friendly smile to a stranger can brighten up their day, as a glare can frighten them and cause their mood to drop. Like the famous quote, “Do unto others as you would have them do to you”.

While you may not be able to help it if you are having a bad day or if you don’t like doing a particular thing, changing your attitude changes everything. Complaining and sulking will only make time drag on when doing an unpleasant task. Singing a song in your head or even humming makes it just a little easier to deal with. Being a pleasant person helps every day.

Understanding examples of personality traits is a great way to start the journey into self discovery. Remember, if you’re up for the challenge, you can make positive changes to your personality type.


Tip 1. We can control our perception and response to what we are presented with. Acknowledging your feelings can be an important beginning to living with change. The tendency is to focus on what is not going well, try refocusing your thoughts on what good things the change will bring.

Tip 2. Understand your current tactics. What are some of the ways that you cope? Before we go anywhere we have to understand where we are. Knowing what works for you and what doesn’t is important; sometimes the only way to know for certain is to try things out.

Tip 3. Share fears with those you trust, and talk with someone who can listen objectively. “We should recognize that different needs will be met by different people… This realization is liberating in an era when it’s too much to expect any one person or institution to fulfill every part of our complex selves” (Domar). Having a strong network of support is a great way to reinforce health and well-being.

Tip 4. Avoid bitterness and blame at all costs. There is no going back, only forward. While we don’t necessarily want to take responsibility for everything that happens to us, there is a lot to be said for accepting the reality of the situations we find ourselves in.

Tip 5. Don’t forget about doing what makes you feel good. It may be exercise, spending time with friends/family, outdoor activities, or the pursuit of your other interests/talents. Taking care of ourselves should be a priority and as we meet our own needs we are in a better position to give and be present for others.

Tip 6. Take the time to understand your values and how you define self. The more you are in touch with the person you are and who you want to be, the less this can be harmed by changes in your environment.

Tip 7. Take care of yourself by a eating a nourishing diet and getting adequate sleep. Be aware of what foods give you energy, what is digested with ease, and which contain vital nutrients. The body anticipates meals and they are better assimilated if the food is taken at regular times. Sleeping and waking at the same time is also beneficial to keep the body functioning optimally



With an average of 40 days’ unpaid overtime a year, Britons work the longest hours in Europe. Long hours and a heavy workload can cause stress. In 2010/11 about 400,000 people in the UK reported work-related stress at a level they believed was making them ill.

Below are some tips of changing to make work life more acceptable to you.

#1: Recognize that change does happen
When we were children, as the saying goes, we thought, acted, and spoke like children. When we became adults, though, we put childish ways behind us. Our own personal lives change as we grow older. Why should our careers and jobs be any different? Denying that change is or will be occurring, and continuing to live in the past (something my daughters allege about me), only makes things more difficult.

When I teach classes on customer service, I emphasize the importance of setting and managing the expectations of the customer. That principle applies to us personally as well. The more we understand that change will happen, the less upset and surprised we will be when we encounter that change.

#2: Be aware of your surroundings
In his classic work The Art of War, author and military strategist Sun Tzu wrote about the importance of observing signs of the enemy. For example, he wrote that movement among trees in a forest indicated that the enemy is advancing, and that dust that rose in a high column indicated the approach of chariots.

Few armies fight with chariots these days, but the principles Sun Tzu wrote about apply just as much to your job situation. Recognizing that change happens is desirable. It’s even better, though, to recognize when change might be occurring in your own specific situation. Keep alert to subtle clues. For example, are you being excluded from important meetings? Does your boss seem more distant? Is the rumor mill engaged?

#3: Recognize the stages
Because reactions to organizational change resemble those to the death of a loved one, many studies on change cite the work of psychologist Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, who identified several specific stages in the latter. The early stages include shock and denial (refusing to believe what has happened and instead believing everything will be all right), guilt (at not having done or said more or for not being the decedent), and anger (at the decedent or at God).Later, one passes through the stages of acceptance (acknowledging what has happened) and moving on.

With respect to organizational change, an additional “negotiations” stage can occur, in which the affected person offers to work harder as a way of preventing or forestalling the change.

All the stages don’t necessarily occur. The progression might not be a smooth linear one, and different amounts of time may be involved with the different stages. Regardless, the quicker you get to the acceptance and moving on stages, the better it will be for you.

#4: Communicate with others
Communications is always important, but especially so when you face change. A lack of communications from others can have a negative impact, while effective communications can have a positive one. From a purely pragmatic standpoint, you need details about the change, so that you can determine how it affects you. Don’t just sit back and wait for things to happen. Talk to your boss, your boss’s boss, and your co-workers to get their understanding. When dealing with co-workers, however, be aware that news can be distorted and can be mixed with rumor.

Part of the fear of change involves dealing with the unknown. If possible, try to minimize this factor by talking to others who have undergone such a change. What difficulties did they experience and how did they deal with them? How can you adapt their experiences to your own situation? As the philosopher Santayana said, “Those who do not remember the past are doomed to repeat it.”

Your communications should involve more than just people in your own department or company. They should involve people in other companies as well. They might have experienced the same change, so their advice has value. They might also serve as contacts should you decide to change jobs.

#5: Do a self assessment
Companies, in planning for the future, often conduct an analysis for strengths, weaknesses, opportunities, and threats (SWOT). That type of SWOT analysis can be just as helpful to you. What skills and strengths do you have? Where do you need to improve? By understanding your own strengths and weaknesses, and knowing as much as you can about the new situation, you have a better chance of finding a place to fit in.

#6: Be flexible
Change requires flexibility. The better able you are to adapt to change, the greater your chances of being successful. After you complete your self-assessment, take a look at the requirements of the new situation. Maybe your current job doesn’t fit exactly into it. However, what skills, from your old role, can you apply to the new situation? In other words, instead of focusing on differences, focus on similarities.

Suppose you were a football coach at a university. One day the president told you the football program was going away, and you would either have to coach basketball (something you never did before) or leave the university.

How would you react if you wanted to stay? Football and basketball have important differences, in number of players, size of playing area, and shape of ball. However, they also have similarities. In both sports, you want to outscore the opponent. In both, a coach must motivate players to achieve peak performance and must deal when necessary with discipline issues. In both, strategy, planning, and preparation are vital to success. If you wanted to make this change successful, you would look at the similarities and leverage existing knowledge. You’d then recognize shortcomings (e.g., lack of coaching experience in or knowledge of basketball) and make appropriate plans to address them.

Think in the same way about how you can adapt your own skills to the new environment.

#7: Continue to do your workI’ve been through reorganizations, and they’re no fun. Regardless, resist if you can the temptation to just sit there. It’s easy to have that attitude, because you don’t know if your work is going to mean anything tomorrow or the next week. Still, you’re being paid to work, so try to do so. Furthermore, that attitude could impress a future boss.


We are living in times increasingly affected by change, be it economical, commercial or social changes around us. While we may not be able to change the circumstance surrounding us, we can change our reaction to those circumstances. Unfortunately, many of us are hesitant to change because of the learned paradigms and fear of the unknown. We therefore make the subconscious choice to stay where we are instead of changing what we do not like.

Here are some tips to help you break out of the circle of predictiveness.

Tip 1: Have a goal
Always have a goal in mind — whether it is saving up for that new car or that trip around the world, or alternatively realising some career ambition. If you don’t have anything to look forward to, then you can quickly become bogged down and will be effectively just living to work rather than the other way round. Having a target to work towards keeps you motivated and helps prevent you from just drifting along and falling into a rut — so make sure you always have a particular goal in mind.

Tip 2: Do something that scares you
There’s nothing that quite makes you feel as good about yourself as overcoming a fear by completing a challenge. If there’s something that you’ve perhaps always fancied doing but have been too scared to do it, then just go for it! There are many people out there who have been skydiving, for example, and described leaping out of a plane as a ‘life-changing experience’ — and then have gone on to complete challenge after challenge because of the buzz they get from it.

Tip 3: Write your autobiography
Putting down in writing your own life will inevitably make you think about it — including those things that have gone right so far and those that haven’t. Although you’ll not necessarily intend to let other people read it (although it might let others understand you better if you do!), it will help you to reassess your life and think about the direction in which you want it to go. It may also be a good way of exorcising some of your demons and reinforcing your beliefs.

Tip 4: Get more active
If your lifestyle has consisted of coming home from work and slumping in front of the TV every evening, then it might be time for a change of tack. We’re not necessarily talking about becoming an Olympic athlete, of course — but we are suggesting you get more active. You could introduce some exercise into your day simply by walking — for example by taking the stairs instead of the elevator. And if you take some more rigorous exercise, then it’s likely you’ll start feeling a lot healthier in a short space of time.

Tip 5: Get a new image
Your image might be the one thing you feel is holding you back and making you lack confidence. If you’ve had the same old tired look for ages, then it may be time to change your appearance in some way. Spend some money on yourself and get a new hairstyle, buy a new wardrobe of clothes, and just do things to make you feel as though you are special. It amazing how you can feel more comfortable and confident in certain clothes when you make the effort — so make an effort more often!

Tip 6: Sleep more/less
Some people just don’t get enough sleep, while others have far too much — the end result of which will be a feeling of constant tiredness. Getting the right amount of sleep will leave you more alert and able to relish doing things and get more out of experiences during your waking hours. Plus, one added bonus of sleeping less is that it enables you to fit more things into your day. After all, as they say, ‘you can sleep when you’re dead’

Tip 7: Change your diet
‘You are what you eat’ is a much-used phrase, and it may be that your diet is making you feel pretty rotten. Just changing a few things can have positive health benefits as well as give you more energy and make you feel better all round. Of course, there’s a lot of advice out there (some of it contradictory!) — but generally, eating everything in moderation is the best way to go. Also, making sure you drink enough water and get your five portions of fruit and veg are two of the golden rules to follow.

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Steve Beckles-Ebusua LCH Dip. Cert W.Y.P. (Open), aka ‘The Change Maker’ is an inspirational speaker and author who speaks and coaches on change.
We are living in times increasingly affected by change, be it economical, commercial or social changes around us. While we may not be able to change the circumstance surrounding us, we can change our reaction to those circumstances. Unfortunately, many of us are hesitant to change because of the learned paradigms and fear of the unknown. We therefore make the subconscious choice to stay where we are instead of changing what we do not like.

Steve’s keynote presentations and coaching sessions explore how to be a change–ambassador instead of a change-critic, thereby increasing your effectiveness in your work life, family life, social life and personal life. He has developed new approaches to looking at your beliefs, habits, attitudes and perceptions of the constant changes occurring in your life.
Steve would be delighted to invest 1hour FREE OF CHARGE to move you forward.